1. Be creative
“The longer we’re together, the more we open up to each other. I think trust is the secret to our great sex life, as it allows us to be really creative.

We tie each other up with handcuffs or his ties, play around with toys and have sex outdoors.

We even made a sex tape. It definitely keeps the romance alive!” Jodie*, 27 Sex and relationship expert Jo-Anne Baker agrees that this is an excellent way to have some fun in the bedroom.

“The handcuffs and ties are designed to make you feel like your control has been taken away from you and given to the other person, which  is a huge turn-on for both,” she says. “But it’s important to agree on clear boundaries first.”

EXPERT TIP: Try new things in a place where you have total control. Try using a ribbon to tie yourself with first, so you can undo it if you’re uncomfortable.

2. Use a secret code word
“My partner and I use a code word for sex. We call it ‘Fight Club’, and you know the rule: you don’t talk about fight club. It’s like a game that we play just between the two of us. It’s our secret, so it’s a massive turn-on and we laugh about it when we have an actual fight. We’ll yell out in public, ‘Do you want to fight about it?’, and sometimes we’ll go and find a place somewhere cheeky and random, for our version of a ‘fight’.” Sam*, 21

“It’s fun to share something that has a different meaning to you and your partner,” says Baker. “It’s that extra closeness that works when you’re part of a couple, and it allows you to bond in a public setting without spelling anything out.”

EXPERT TIP: Try using a word from a different language. (It’ll make French even sexier!)

3. Get out of the bedroom

“You have to be adventurous and keep mixing things up – don’t restrict sex to the bedroom. Try it outdoors, on top of the kitchen bench or on the dining room table. It’s really exciting to think you might be caught any second or that someone could be watching you. Also, be daring and try a different position once a week. Kama Sutra books help me out when I’m stuck for ideas!” Julie*, 25

“Having sex outdoors in a public place is illegal!” warns Baker. “But choosing the right environment can be incredibly important for arousing women and adding excitement. When you’re in a new relationship, you explore different places and get more creative, whereas people in a long-term relationship have to plan that.”

4. Look good with no clothes on
“After a few years together, we’d both let ourselves go and were growing a bit distant, so we decided to make a bigger effort and started working out to improve our appearance. Not only did we lose lots of weight but we found each other sexier as we went along. I also started a lingerie collection, which definitely helped!” Amber*, 26

According to Baker, not only is this idea conducive to a hotter sex life, it’s also a great excuse to get fit and healthy. “Taking control of your body leaves you more sexually charged and turned on towards your partner. In-shape bodies produce better orgasms and have a higher sexual arousal level.” 

EXPERT TIP: While feeling fit is good, make sure you’re not too tired from all the exercise – no-one’s in the mood for sex when they’re exhausted.

5 Play a game
“My partner and I like to play the ‘yes’ game to make our sex more fun. It’s really simple, but guaranteed to be fun. Just think of a question, but don’t say it aloud. Your man
has to respond to your silent question with a resounding, ‘Yes’. You can do anything and everything to him.” Gemma*, 28

Baker agrees that this is a fun game. “There’s a lot of trust involved,” she advises. “While the ‘yes’ game is a wonderful way to feel close and get your needs met, you need to be in a relationship with someone who wouldn’t ask you to do something that could hurt yourself.”